Who’s Caring for the People Who Care for Your Loved One?

By Charles Harris, Director of Community Partnerships

Hospice of the Chesapeake

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Who’s Caring for the People Who Care for Your Loved One?

If someone you love lives in a small assisted living home, chances are the person caring for them isn’t a shift worker. They’re closer to family.Some of the most remarkable caregiving in our community’s assisted living facilities happens in small, intimate homes, often run by a clinician or healthcare professional with a team of caregivers who have been with the same residents through holidays, hard days and everything in between.

The residents and the facility’s caregivers are family. And when one of their own begins to decline, they feel it the way a family does, with love, worry and sometimes quiet concern about how to provide everything their resident needs. That’s where hospice comes in.

Here are five ways we show up for these homes and the families inside them.

1. We help caregivers be there

The caregivers in these homes aren’t shift workers passing through. They know how a resident takes their coffee, which stories they like to retell, what makes them laugh. When our clinical team brings in the hospital beds, oxygen and medications a resident needs, it isn’t to take over. It’s so the caregiver can stay focused on what only they can offer: more time with their resident.

2. We become part of their family, too

A small, assisted living home doesn’t typically employ a physician, nurse, certified nursing assistant, social worker and chaplain. When they partner with us, that team becomes an extension of the caregivers already there, working alongside people who’ve built years of trust with each resident. And families who can’t visit every day hear from us directly: “I visited your loved one today. Here’s what I saw. How are you doing?”

3. We’re there when the caregivers need help

Every small facility administrator knows the weekend crisis, the 2 a.m. moment when a caregiver who has poured everything into a resident doesn’t know what to do next. Our 24-hour nurse line exists for exactly that. The nurse will triage, advise and, if necessary, send someone to visit, so the caregiver never faces that moment alone.

4. We take care of the caregivers, too

When a resident passes away, everyone feels it: the staff, residents and the family. These are people who have loved and looked after someone for years. Our grief experts can come in for the caregivers, not just the family, because those who’ve given someone that much of themselves shouldn’t have to grieve alone.

5. We help protect the relationship

Families are often waiting for someone they trust to suggest seeking hospice care. We sit down with the administrator, the caregiver, the family and the resident together, to help decide how hospice can help. Choosing hospice isn’t about giving up on the relationship. It’s about protecting it, making sure the time that remains is spent together, not consumed by tasks neither of you signed up for. The smallest assisted living homes in our community are doing something remarkable. Hospice is a partner — not just in a crisis, but long before one arrives. Because every family, in every home, deserves that kind of support.