Couples Therapy: Does Your Relationship Sound Like This?

By Brookside Family Therapy

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Couples Therapy: Does Your Relationship Sound Like This?

One of you gets home and heads straight to change your clothes. No hello, no hugs, no kisses, the dog gets more attention than you do. What about bringing home flowers once in awhile or filing up the other persons gas tank?

No date nights. When you do go to dinner its with the kids or other couples or there is no conversation because you spend the evening on your phones.

You never say nice things to one another let alone please and thank you.  Common courtesy has gone out the window.  The little things like holding hands don’t happen any more either.  Do you snuggle on the couch watching a movie or is that time with the dog again? Do arguments or disagreements happen more often and last longer than good times? Is someone throwing the “D” word around? Maybe what you are arguing about isn’t even the real problem!

Bad Communication

In couples it can look like:

• attacking each other with insults and name calling
• shutting down and not talking at all
• bringing others into the relationship by sharing with friends or family
• giving each other ultimatums
• being defensive when the other person is trying to talk to you
• purposefully giving someone the silent treatment
• If this sounds like you it may be time for a marriage tune up!

A healthy relationship is….

• Support
• Cooperation
• Accountability
• Trust
• Honesty
• Safety
• Couples therapy is all about communication.

A Cooperative Arrangement

Most of the concerns that couples bring to therapy all come down to how they communicate regardless of the issue. We work together to discover and correct communication patterns that aren’t working for you as a couple which will in turn help to heal old wounds that have been caused by those poor communication patterns.  We bring tough topics out in the open to practice communication skills in a safe and nonjudgmental environment. We will help you work through matters of trust, infidelity, finances, addiction or in-laws just to name a few.  If you are considering a divorce and are unsure we can help you discuss that topic open and honestly. 

What You Should Expect

• Communication rules and tools
• Feel heard
• Safe space to get it all out

What We Expect

• Respect

“A marriage tune up is cheaper than a divorce.”